What you deserve

# Chapter 91

The results you deserve will follow from the quality of your execution. - John Gruber

Notice that Gruber says the results you *deserve*! That is quite a bit different than how I have always hear this said, in that you get the results you want when you do . . . whatever. But usually the results I want is to lose weight without dieting, gain muscle without lifting, finish first without working hard, and be smart without thinking. You get the picture. I am lazy. You are lazy. Most people are lazy. I think lazy is the normal. And the results most people get in life are the lazy results. But then we see someone who has more . . . .

My friend Bernie says you have to get your butt in your seat and do the work. I want to up that to, you have to get your butt in your seat and do the work with excellence. Bernie is trying to help people just get started toward producing something, and he and I both want that producing to be amazing.

But you and I have to decide to pay the piper. In fact most of the time whatever you pay the piper is precisely the quality of results you normally get. If you pay the piper poorly your results will be poorly. If you pay the piper well, then your results will generally be good. But if you really want stellar results, then dig in hard and unflinchingly work until it is amazing.

Once upon a time, I was a fairly famous public speaker. In my network, I was gold! Honestly, you would not believe how good I am. But I worked my butt off for every single one of those amazings. I practiced and practiced for years! We get the results we deserve almost always.

Me the priority

# Chapter 90

“We are afraid of the silence. We are afraid of looking stupid. We are afraid of missing out. We are afraid of being the bad guy who says, “Nope, not interested.” We’d rather make ourselves miserable than make ourselves a priority, than be our best selves. Than be still . . . and in charge of our own information diet.” Ryan Holiday

I am trekking at 35000 feet, Bose in my ears, silence in the friendly skies. I just ate my dinner while everyone else is sleeping. Of course they all ate their dinner while I was sleeping. Then a couple of hours of just . . . nothing. No inputs. While I intentionally did not sleep as long as I could have since I want to adjust to my new time zone as quickly as possible, I was just as intentional to do nothing, sit in a semi-comatose state, no inputs, no screens, no talking, no anything. My brain needed the silence. My mind needed no inputs. After weeks (months!) of a world that can’t stop talking, the silence is precious.

Today marks 90 consecutive days of writing these 275 word chapters in this book. Today marks 130 consecutive days of no alcohol (even though sadly there were no non-alcoholic beer options in the airport, nor on this flight). No inputs - information diet. These are decisions to make myself a priority, to be my best self. I don’t feel like I am missing out on anything, rather I feel like I am choosing me., the David I want to be. Make something beautiful today. Change the world. Think.

The most difficult question ever

# Chapter 89

“Until you decide what you want, you won't be able to consciously shape your environments.“ Dr Hardy

The number one most difficult question for every client to answer, for every person to answer is, “what do you want?” This is the thorniest question ever, because of FOMO for lots of people, and because of complexities for other people.

I am an other people. Its the complexities for me. For instance, I want to stop traveling. Its killing my body and wrecking my sleep, poisoning me with radiation, and yet . . . I love being in new places and having new experiences. See? Its complex, in that the TWO wants depend on one another, and so I can’t synthesize this down to a single want. FOMO people just don’t want to miss out on anything ever, so getting them to state or decide their want, is like . . . good luck.

So tell me, “what do you want” and “are you sure?” Yes you can sit there for the next 10 hours contemplating those two questions. And once you have it decided what you want, you can start shaping your environment to achieve it. You can now decide what story you want to tell with your life. You can decide who will be in your story and who will not be in your story. And most critical of all, we get to decide who we will be in the story!

Thus in one sense I am the son of a chicken farmer, and a damn good chicken farmer at that! And at the same time I am the president and CEO of an International NGO think-tank. Most importantly, I don’t have to stop there!

Think? Or pretty?

# Chapter 88

Seth Godin: If we only forward the easy, short and funny things we read online, why are we surprised that our inbox is filled with nothing we’ll remember tomorrow? What would happened if instead, we shared the most complex, useful and thoughtful things we discovered instead?

I get far too many cutsie emails and forwards from too many people. I don’t respond to these kinds of emails. I don’t forward these on to other people and pollute their email inboxes. And some events happen automatically, like facebook reposting my video 10 times yesterday. That was not a particularly cutsie email or video, but what if I had shared something amazing instead of merely pretty? What if I had written a thought-provoking blog or challenging piece that made people think, instead of being merely pretty?

It gets worse. What this actually reveals is that few of us stay in the realm of complex, useful and thoughtful, which is a more important issue honestly. It means that we are bored and so we send cat videos and emails. It means that we are mentally lazy and so we forward emails about spectacular ways to die. We don’t care enough to change the world (the complex useful and thoughtful) and so we watch YouTube vids all day. We are just obsessed with entertaining ourselves instead of doing something that matters, and if you or I arrogantly sit here and think that we never do this, then we can check our inbox and see how many frivolous emails and entertainment emails we have resting in there.

Here is the deal, lets live in the world of the complex and useful and thoughtful and leave the world of entertainment behind.

A new reality

# Chapter 87

The post for another day . . . from yesterday.

As you get healthier and stronger and thinner and faster and better looking, the math starts to work against you in an ever increasing curve. Like I said yesterday, I can consume 900 calories, exercise to the tune of 1600 calories burned, and still gain two pounds on pretty much any given day. The instruments are lying and the math is lying and this is reality, or at least at first glance this is reality. But after observing this for a couple of decades, there are more subtle things going on and THIS is reality.

So first of all face the fact that as you get healthier stronger thinner and better looking, your body gets far more efficient. Far far more efficient. This efficiency increase is what makes it feel like you ate 900 calories, exercised 1600 off, and gained 7000 calories worth of weight in the same day. Do not let this discourage you. While it vastly limits how much and how fast you can lose weight, it also means you are healthier stronger thinner and better looking.

Second of all, you eat more than you realize. Unless you write down and weigh every single thing you put in your mouth each day, you and I are part of the 99% of people out there who significantly underestimate our daily calorie intake. You don’t believe me? Well it is easy to disprove if I am in error. Just weigh and write down everything you eat in a day and you will see. Personally I prefer to eat my peanut butter straight out of the jar, than weigh and write it down. Combine this factor with the above paragraph and the results are skewed even more.

Thirdly of all, you are burning far less calories than your Apple Watch or any other gadget is telling you if you have been doing this for any length of time. Refer to the “first of all” paragraph above. Congratulations! You can now do greater feats than ever before, burning far less calories. And let’s face it, your body is working less, because it takes less energy to propel my 157 pound body up a hill, than it did to propel my 227 pound body up the same hill.

Our way of consuming

# Chapter 86

Thich Nhat Hanh: Before we can make deep changes in our lives, we have to look into our diet, our way of consuming. We have to live in such a way that we stop consuming the things that poison us and intoxicate us. Then we will have the strength to allow the best in us to arise, and we will no longer be victims of anger, of frustration.

I am feeling this one in the strongest way this morning. It is always so frustrating to be in the states when it comes to the way that they (we) consume! Simply put, we eat too often, too much, and the wrong stuff. Ok maybe that is not too simply said, but it is at least plainly stated. Baldly stated! In these last three years of regular time in the USA, this has often been my number one frustration. The constant pounding of food.

And the scales do lie, as does my Apple Watch! Yesterday I ate about 900 calories, burned about 1600, and gained two pounds. This happens so often that I am no longer surprised. Something is lying! But this particular issue is a post for another day.

The point of this post is to stop consuming poison and intoxicates, be strong, not angry nor frustrated, be a better version of me. These deep changes that we can and should make, happen one meal at a time. One choice at a time. One bite at a time. Decide ahead of time. Lower your decision fatigue. Increase your power. Be strong.

Halloween and praise music

# Chapter 85

Cultural incongruence.

Halloween just passed us by. The social version of this holiday is benign and fun and community-building. The spiritual version of this day is death and darkness, a celebration of wickedness. I think we all can enjoy and participate in the social side of this day, princesses and superhero’s welcome. The spiritual side of this day is the antithesis of what Jesus-followers believe and trust.

So when I go to my local USA gym, and there are demons and goblins and skeletons and every evil nightmare you can imagine hanging and draped all over the place, and recordings attached to them making sounds of what they imagine demons to sound like, and you have to walk through mock spiderwebs to get from one place to another, you might think that this is a “haunted” house rather than a gym. Or maybe they are just super enthusiastically getting into the “spirit” of the social holiday?

But this is where it gets interesting, or confusing, depending on your point of view. While the entire gym is decked to the gills with every possible murky Halloween Ghoul and Goblin, and each time you come into the gym a demon screeches at you over the door, the music playing in the gym isn’t your typical metal band with a pounding drum or bass beat (for lifting weights and timing and all that jazz). No these characters are playing HillSong United worship music. Yep. You read that right. The praises to Jesus right along side of the demon screams.

This seems to me a perfect picture of the incongruence of American culture.

I can see clearly now . . .

# Chapter 84

Comparison to others limits your ability to clearly see yourself.

“I am big, but I am not nearly as big as this person was” I have heard my father say so many times after a trip to the grocery store. “I am heavy, but so and so was a whopper!” he is fond of saying. And this morning as he talked non-stop, he had the audacity to complain about the nurses at his regular doctor office visit who “talked like a radio and never shut up”. I had a difficult time explaining to my dad why I was choking with laughter. He has the unique ability to see others in such a way, that his perception of himself is better.

But I don’t think this is a very accurate way to see yourself. And I think that more people than my dad do this. Seeing yourself accurately is a powerful exercise in leadership and in life. If you don’t or can’t, then you will never be able to make the adjustments or hacks in your life to be more. To be your best version of you. To understand yourself in the way that other’s experience you.

Yes there are heavier people than my dad at Walmart, but that is only one reality. In my opinion he needs to focus on fact that he is a short round 200 pound man! At 5 ‘6’ that means he has a BMI of 32.2! This was also my BMI for much of adult life as a 220 pound man. (I am 4 inches taller than my dad) That is an “obese” category on the BMI scale. Those are the facts. The relative size of other people at the grocery store doesn’t make me or you weigh less. It doesn’t make us healthier.

If you must compare, compare up.

A game-changer

# Chapter 83

A key portion of the hack I am talking about is sleeping better, longer and deeper. The game changer. You can’t do less better, or be high powered, or enjoy complete rest without this better sleep.

If you want to be a high accomplishment individual who thrives and flourishes, this hack is super important. If you want to be a person who watches The Price Is Right and Family Feud, well ok. If you want to change the world, this element of your life is one that you need to give consistent solid attention, and that is one of the primary reasons I am taking this epic break from alcohol - its that important! If you want to do Facebook for hours a day or check it 400 times daily, well ok.

If you want to live life at a high impact level, to have awesome output ability, then sleep is a critical element. If you track your outputs and correlate your sleep, I am pretty sure you will see the connection, because I have and do. But if Fortnight or War Craft is your thing, well ok. If you want to live at a sustainable pace, always doing less better, then sleep is your best friend. Do not underestimate this hack! If you want to be a news hound 24/7, well ok. (Just for the record I stopped watching the news on purpose in 2007).

If you want the power to completely stop, fully rest, unplug and disengage and recover and recuperate utterly, then epic sleep is gonna likely be one of your best tools. Because this kind of sleep will bring you the clarity of thought, which will lead you to understand how important this recovery and recuperation is to your well being and important contributions to the world.

That darn off on switch

# Chapter 82

“Most people exist between the on and off switch. They are unable to turn on and put out high power, and they are unable to turn off completely and enjoy true rest.” - Tim Ferris

In other words they stay in the gray zone. The don’t regularly experience the wonders of true rest, nor the intense satisfaction of putting out high power and getting the job done well. I think most folks stay in the gray zone, just existing and rarely reaching their potential. Let’s face it, I am in the people-assessment business, and it is not a pleasing sight most days.

But I get it, the gray zone is the path of least resistance. It is what the majority do, fall into, end up with, whatever. Its what the neighbors do and their neighbors do. It looks normal in most neighborhoods. Normal being another word for average. And if you don’t have ambitions to be more, then perhaps normal is ok for you. But if you want to find your capacity limits, if you want to change the outcomes and the output, if you want to experience the best, then you have to reject the normal average.

You have to not stay locked to your TV, radio, screens, TV dinners, three big meals a day, 6 packs, whiskeys, pills, (notice that these are all inputs) and instead lock your focus on your outputs, your systems, your habits, your goals your direction that you want to go. Replace the average normal world inputs, for high power outputs, and then turn it all off completely and disconnect and rest. This sounds like the life I want to continue living. What about you?

Do Less Better

# Chapter 81

Do less better.

This is the antithesis of the American way. It is a very rare day when I meet someone that doesn’t simply try to add more and more and more to an already overclocked schedule. They pile and cram every possibility into each moment and call it “living” their best life. I politely disagree.

Instead of terminal FOMO, why don’t we do less better? Why do we emphasize quantity over quality and call that “living”? I don’t ever feel like I am missing out on anything. FOMO rarely ever attacks me or my schedule. In fact I keep my client list small and high impact on purpose. I want to work with the best. I want to work less.

See? Do less better.

If we don’t take this approach when will we think? Be grateful? Spend TIME with our loved ones? Be creative? Hone our skills? Be thankful? Enjoy the sunrise? Or the sunsets? Share our lives with others? Party with friends and celebrate their momentous occasions? Vacation? Take a long ride on your motorcycle in the mountains? Read an excellent book? When will we consider the most important things in life? The meaning of life? Our part to play in life? Our legacy? Contemplate? Solve great problems? Set new courses? Live this moment?

I am pretty certain that Do Less Better will give us these gifts from the previous paragraph, along the way. It will demand an intentionality from each of us though, that we are not well practiced at doing. We have been coached and culturally indoctrinated that more is better, and the most is best. Wrong. Do less better is a far better path, and more demanding too. It will require we bring our best selves to the task, but the rewards are awesome.

Stop swimming upstream

# Chapter 80

Drowning in information.

This is a world overpowered overwhelmed and overcome in information and disinformation. Let’s said it this way, the inputs are screaming in overload mode! This makes it impossible to act with any clarity, impossible to even find clarity, and impossible to practice quiet or silence. Turn it off!

If you don’t slow this tsunami of incoming data, you were never find stillness, quiet, peace, clarity, understanding, insight and giant leaps in progress. It will be your normal to be always swimming upstream, and difficulties will be a matter of degrees related to how fast you are swimming and how fast the flow is moving against you.

Come to shore. Get out of the flow. Step into a world of no data (or at least far less data) and experience the visceral silence, along with a mind that might be stunned by the lack of resistance! Turn it off!

There are ways to do this, and I have done all of these and keep looking for more. Get rid of the TV. This is a most important step. Honestly folks, there are so many books to be read! Don’t play any music in your auto. This is one of best percolating times. Haven’t played a radio in a car in decades. I find that I miss neither the TV nor the radio and I have just eliminated 50% of the disinformation out there, and 80% of the talking noise inside my head coming through my ears.

The smartphone, tablet and computer - ah there lies a challenge for me still as those are primary working tools - but they often are used for forms of information/noise/talking heads/etc etc. And the remaining percentage of noise and information and data come from the people you spend time with. Choose wisely if you have a choice.

The engine of success

# Chapter 79

You do not rise to the level of your goals—you fall to the level of your systems. - James Clear

This is so so so so true. I see it all the time, since I work with people and helping them reach and make and understand their goals is something that I do very often. It is wonderful to help people reach their goals and to make stretch goals and go up another level in their lives and in their accomplishments. But the goal-making and goal-reaching are just the surface process. Goals are the sexy exterior. The engine that drives the actual movement, the daily progress, are the systems in your life. If you don’t have systems, consistency in action, then most of your goals are gonna stay unreached.

Many years ago I read Peter Senge’s pivotal text on systems, The Fifth Discipline, and it was a revolution and a revelation for me. I was in my early 30’s and was just starting to build and develop systems in my life and see some results. Then I read the book and like fertilizing in the Spring, a sudden and huge set of possibilities occurred in my life, if only I would build more and better systems! The growth was fantastic! The possibilities endless! And the rest is history as they say. Systems have brought me to where I am today. My present day situation and my successes in life, and my progress and my opportunities, are all closely tied to my systems.

Here is the crucial systems piece - the discipline, or consistency of your system. The more dependable your system, the greater certainty of reaching every goal.

Get your racing heart and mind under control

# Chapter 96

Inputs

Inputs are not only external they can also be internal. What is going on in our racing hearts and heads is also an input. A noise. A challenge. An unignoreable cacophony. This is why I am up at 3:34 am writing this darn 275! Yes I am having some jet lag too, but its always the brain, always the brain. Once that kicks in, never gonna get back to sleep and I laid there two hours trying.

But it can also be worry, your to-do lists, your forgot-to-do lists, your kids, your grandkids, you job, your finances, your work, your failing car, your aging parents, your ever more forgetful spouse, your health, your bucket list, your lack of sleep when you have a full day today like I do! That’s your brain on acid or something, not really sure because I have never done acid, but your brain is going a million miles a second and those are inputs. They keep you revved up so high, you can’t get to the focus or produce the quality that you need.

And it can also be your heart, as in the loss of your brother, your mom dying, your dad lonely and sick, your marriage not going the way you had hoped, arguments, disagreements, the taxi cab driver rips you off, the customs agent yells at you, the passport officer grills you, your boss fires you, the other driver cuts you off, someone dents your car while you are buying groceries, whatever it is that gets your heart racing is an input. It too is something that has to be processed.

Limit your inputs. Change the world.

Life airport mode?

# Chapter 77

“Limit your inputs” - Ryan Holiday

This is so much more difficult than you would think. There are inputs that I have control over and they all conspire against me to ding, ping , blow, honk, beep, chirp, and play harps to gain, muster, keep and compete for my attention. This morning I was rudely awaken by one of these dang blasted things, as I evidently forgot to set one of the iPads to airport mode before going to bed, and the wretched thing was blowing up at 5:00am which means I was awake and not going to be able to go back to sleep. Because once my brain kicks in, there is not any more sleep on the horizon.

It drives my wife crazy that I turn everything to airport mode before going to bed. It drives me crazy that she is unwilling to limit her inputs (and MY inputs!) when she goes to bed. What the heck are you gonna help with or accomplish in the middle of the night???? Anywho, sometimes I forget to turn everything off that can be turned off, and for certain those are gonna start dinging and pinging in the night. And for the record, I am turning those screens off more and more in the daytime as well.

But there are inputs I can’t control, like the TV my dad insists on watching right this very moment at 6:00 am in the morning. Or if he wasn’t watching the TV, then he would be sitting across from me talking, even though he knows I am working and thinking and writing and that I need to concentrate and focus. These are uncontrollable inputs. Yes I can change rooms, but my dad will just follow me. But everyone has inputs that they have limited control over. Shoot, my dad is watching tv AND talking to me now!

Limit your inputs as much as possible, you might be able to control more than you think, or you may not. But don’t give up on this one, keep trying!

The most difficult moment

# Chapter 76

“We do not live in this moment. We, in fact, try desperately to get out of it - by thinking , doing, talking, worrying, remembering, hoping, whatever.” - Ryan Holiday.

This is a profound truth I fear. There is no more difficult moment to live in and no more important moment to live in. Especially someone as future-focused as I have been all my life. I think I missed entire decades of being present and being still, focused, intentional about treasuring the now. I can’t recall anything I did from my mid-20 until my mid-40’s that was very much in the moment. I was too busy doing all the things that Holiday mentions above and more. All my hurry and scurrying total obliterated any living in the moment.

Looking back it was a full life, of accomplishments and action like a life. There was lots of doing, if not very much being. But like the chapters and characters I have been writing about from the past few days, this was a life characterized by busy. Being overclocked. Overwhelmed. The value was in how needed and necessary I was to . . . whatever. How much I crammed into each day. My exhaustion was my merit badge of significance. My stress was my dress tie in my favorite outfit. My hurry was the measure of my significance. It was a busy life . . . it wasn’t much of a life.

We indeed try desperately to get out of the moment, still today. The smartphone in my pocket is the most common tool of presence-skipping. Not just for me, but for just about every single person in the Western world. When I was a small kid, there was one phone in my neighborhood for five families. Then one per family (although we still shared the line with the other four families) and now there are at least one phone per person! And I have guys in my life who have multiple phones and they spread them out on the table when we meet for effect.

Cornerstone of contentment

# Chapter 75

Josh Spector [writes](https://medium.com/an-idea-for-you/you-dont-have-a-time-management-problem-you-just-think-you-do-ac8eb6952b06) : “It sounds cliche, but your time management goal shouldn’t be to figure out how to do more, but instead to figure out how to want less.”

These execs at company A and company B that I have been referencing these last couple of days, know they could say no. They simply don’t want to. They are warped in a particular way that their time management goal is to cram more and more into each day. Personally I think they are bored with the job that they are being paid to do, because I failed to find a single person in these companies who was thrilled, or even satisfied, with their performance.

Wanting less is really powerful. I keep my business model small and high impact on purpose. There are endless requests to take on more clients, and generally say “no” to all such requests. I don’t want more clients. I want fewer but better clients. It reminds me of a baseball themed movie I watched with my kids when they were small. One of the main lines in the story was “less is more.” It is never more true, than when we are talking about our schedules and calendars.

Wanting less at the electronics story, wanting less at the grocery store, wanting that one high impact interaction rather than being needed by 100’s of people is more. These kinds of decisions and actions will lead you to what you want far more, and end in higher contentment and satisfaction all the way around. In fact I want argue that wanting less is the cornerstone of contentment, not only the best way to manage your time.

Time scarcity

# Chapter 74

Time scarcity.

I just encountered this in the most disturbing manner. A large corporation filled with people who know me personally and hold me generally in high regard, their words not mine, were . . . ignoring me. They would argue violently against this assertion but let me assure you, they were ignoring me. Honestly this happens to me so rarely in my life, that it truly has some bite to it, and thus I am 100% certain that I was being ignored in actual real life. But from the perspective of those doing the ignoring, they simply did not have time to even say to their personal admin (yes they all have personal admins), “Hey Amy, text David that its ok. Make it happen.” Wow that took 5 whole seconds to type. Would have took Amy even less time since she is an admin and I am a poor typist on a good day.

And when I did finally have a voice to voice conversation with one of these overclocked execs, it was pretty much all a humble brag about how busy they were. I. Am. Not. Impressed. Nor do I admire them. Nor do I ever ever want to be like them ever again in this whole life. In fact, if I did not need them as a critical piece of my life, I would actually dump them. Generally I chose to never spend energy or time on people like this. Life with them is always a competition of who is most important, defined by who is most overclocked or busy. No thank you friend.

I want to live a life that is highly sustainable, filled with space and energy for me and my wife and my kids and my grandkids. And none of them gives a fig about how busy I may have chosen to be. They only care about how available I am to them.

Not ever again

# Chapter 73

Do you wake up feeling like you are already behind? I did for many years, but not anymore. I do not live that way. But I am discovering on all my travels across America that most of the executives I am working with, are way overclocked. I mean like they are addicted to working and far too engaged in their roles at their jobs. They cannot stop and be still. They are afraid to stop and be quiet. Most disturbingly, I don’t think they want to.

As I sit across the table talking, eating or smoking a cigar with these men, it was fairly constant humble bragging about how busy, how many hours they worked, how big the pressures were, how complicated the challenges, how overwhelmed they are, how exhausted and overextended they are, how capable they are for managing so many overages, etc etc. I. Am. Not. Impressed. In fact, I am writing these matters down on this virtual paper as insurance that I remain inoculated and protected from ever again admiring anyone who chooses to live this way. To vaccinate myself from thinking for a single second that I want to live like that again. No thank you.

I want to wake up feeling like the possibilities are endless, like the day might bring something new and creative and exciting, that I am gonna learn something new today, that I will get to do some amazing things today. I want to wake up excited about the potentials and the promises of a new day. Waking feeling like I am already behind made me just want to pull the covers up over my head and never get out of bed. Waking up the David way is fun, energizing and interesting. I think I will stick with my current approach.

All of humanity’s problems

# Chapter 72

“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Blaise Pascal

I am dreading going back to my dad’s place today. After a week of great views and great work in the far North East, because not only did have those two things, I also had quiet. Solitude. Silence. Beautiful natural smells in the air, and no chicken manure. Not a great deal of these benefits, but enough to matter. I will get none of these in Georgia. And since my dad can’t or won’t sit alone and quiet, neither do I get to have that luxury.

And it is indeed a luxury . . . and a discipline. Most people reach for their Smartphones the second there is a gap in the talk or in the distraction of life, most people are just like my dad, never a moment of stillness, quiet, silence, or solitude. Even in the bathroom, they invite others along via their phone, and social lives intertwined there via their phones.

So many people around me complain and feel the pain of loneliness and being alone, whereas I am the opposite as I actively seek to be alone and to have more solitude. Never do I feel lonely. Its terrible that so many people do feel lonely and alone, but honestly folks, I think this is precisely what Pascal was talking about 400 years ago. To ever be fully comfortable with yourself, you have to spend some quality time with yourself. I meet few people who ever do this. Yet it is a powerful and necessary part of being the best version of you. This is exactly why the world is in the condition it is today. Be the one who changes this. Spend some time with you. If you discover that you don’t like you, then lets become someone you do enjoy. The world will benefit from your solitude.